Promise rings are a symbol of promises, trust, and devotion. A promise ring presents the promise that someday maybe soon or someday maybe later, you will present them with a proper engagement ring and are ready to spend the rest of your life with them.
Though promise rings signify a lifelong commitment, many people prefer to present promise rings first for a variety of reasons, and getting one can be difficult when you don’t quite know what you’re looking for.
The most important thing to remember when you’re considering the perfect promise ring is to make sure that the person you're presenting to will see themselves reflected in it - both on the ring’s reflective surface and in the overall design.
So, can a promise ring be any ring? The answer is yes
In short, there is no such thing as a “promise ring exclusive design”. While some prefer more simple designs, other’s prefer the more sparkly and extravagant so, much like engagement and wedding rings, there is no one style of promise ring. In fact, many “promise rings” aren’t marked as promise rings at all!
If you’re still having trouble deciding what the perfect type of ring is, don’t worry. You’re not alone. Deciding on a promise ring is bound to leave you feeling a little anxious and confused. Luckily, we have a few helpful tips to send you on your way!
But, first things first...
Here's what we will cover so you know all you need to about promise rings.
- What is a promise ring
- Need to know's
- Do's and don'ts of promise rings
- Articles you will love
What is a Promise Ring?
A promise ring, traditionally speaking, is usually given in lieu of an engagement ring. However, and increasingly so, promise rings have been given in many different fashions for different reasons. For example, some prefer to provide promise rings simply when the relationship is at a point in which the two are confident and comfortable in the relationship. They’ve decided they are happy where they are and don’t want to see other people. In this case, the promise ring is typically not worn on the traditional ring finger.
When a promise ring is provided in lieu of a proposal, it may be worn on the traditional ring finger, though a promise ring itself is worn on any finger.
Promise rings nowadays can signify more than a simple promise of a proposal. They can simply signify that the two are happy in their relationship and are not in a rush for marriage.
It can signify a deep promise made between the two - such as abstinence rings or friendship rings. This is why there is no one form of promise ring today.
Now that you know what a promise ring is and that there is no one style, you may be feeling more confused as ever. If there is no one style, how are you supposed to choose the right one?
Well, here are a few need-to-know’s when it comes to choosing a promise ring that may help your decision.
Need to Know’s
First off, you need to know some things before you ever even start looking at promise rings. Things like ring size, preferred designs, favorite colors and birthstone, favorite sayings, etc. may all be potentially crucial to finding the perfect ring. Why?
Because it adds a touch of personalization and individuality to the ring! And, since promise rings tend to be less expensive than engagement rings (which is one of the many reasons that promise rings are given before an engagement ring), it’s much more feasible and meaningful to personalize the promise ring to fit your significant other’s lifestyle.
Here’s a break down of how you can use this knowledge to personalize your promise ring:
Ring size, for obvious reasons, is one of the first things you should try to figure out. Try getting your friends or family to have your significant other try on their rings for fun without you around if you’re trying to be inconspicuous.
Or, simply borrow a ring they already have, if they have any, and use a ruler to measure the width of the ring. Make sure you mark it down in mm so that you can tell the jeweler the size.
Take your significant other to the mall or window-shopping and casually browse passed the jewelry section (this works better for women than men since women tend to enjoy browsing jewelry and men could usually care less). See what, if anything, catches their eye.
Or, try to remember the types of jewelry that they’ve pointed out to you in the past. This can help you determine the best style for the ring that suits your significant others preference and personality.
This is another important aspect to any type of ring buying. If your significant other works a lot with their hands, you will want to get a sturdy metal rather than a softer metal. You will also want to downplay any large stones or designs as these tend to get snagged or ruined.
Make sure to also take into account their clothing choices. You want them to be able to wear this ring with anything they find in their closet, so make sure that the ring will match what they have.
For instance, don’t buy a flashy ring with huge stones for someone who prefers wearing jeans and a tee-shirt and lounging, as this may be distasteful to their style preference.
Favorite Colors and Birthstone
Paying attention to their favorite colors and their birthstone is another wonderful addition to buying a promise ring. It not only reflects their personality but also shows them how much you appreciate them and pay attention.
Or, you can have both of your birthstones added to signify your unbreakable bond.
It’s very easy to ask your jeweler to replace or add stones to most rings that you can purchase. If you have questions, feel free to ask your jeweler because their job is to make this process as easy as possible for you.
Believe it or not, favorite sayings are a great way to add individual personalization that your significant other will deeply appreciate. Do you two have a favorite saying? Maybe they have a saying that simply touches your heart? Have it engraved into the band of the ring!
Alternately, you can have the specific place you two met, the date, or anything else you can think of with significant meaning to your relationship, which makes the possibilities for engravings nearly endless and equally heartwarming.
Common Stone Styles
Though there is no one style for promise rings, there are a few popular choices when it comes to picking them out. Here are a few of the most popular choices when it comes to promise rings.
Solitaire Cut Stones
The solitaire cut is most common among engagement rings, which makes it an extremely popular choice for promise rings that are meant to represent a future engagement as well. This style can go with pretty much anything, so it’s extremely versatile and easy to wear daily (which is what you’re going for).
The diamond cluster choice is a close second to the solitaire for those on a limited budget because several small stones costs much less than one large stone. This is also a versatile style that can be worn with pretty much everything.
Gemstones can add a bit of flare as well as provide a more in-budget alternative to diamonds. Not to mention, your significant other may enjoy having their favorite color on their ring rather than a timeless diamond, so this is an alternative to keep highly in mind.
Trilogy rings are based on an Irish tradition. The three separate stones are to represent the past, present, and future of your relationship. You can choose to have each stone a different color or have them all in one color. The meaning behind these types of rings makes it another popular choice for promise rings in particular.
Now that you know the need-to-know’s, it’s time to decide on how you’re going to present the ring. Here are a few tips to keep in mind when deciding exactly how you’re going to gift it.
The Do’s and Don’ts of Gifting a Promise Ring
Gifting a promise ring is a very special and significant occasion in your relationship. However, you don’t want to set expectations too high, either. This can lead to a disappointed significant other as well as rejection! To avoid this problem, here are a few tips for presenting your promise ring:
- DO make it special. You want this to be as memorable for your counterpart as it is for you. Set it up like a nice date and set the stage beforehand.
- DON’T overdo it. This may sound counterproductive, but planning out an extravagant night out on the town may lead your partner to think you’re planning a proposal, which ultimately leads to disappointment at the end of the night. Alternately, if your partner isn’t ready for that type of commitment, it may scare them and lead them to leave the date early without so much as a minute’s notice. Moral of the story? Keep it simple but romantic.
- DO make your planned date fun and almost childish. This day is to remind you both of all of the fun you bring to each other’s lives, so planning a treasure hunt or a simple hike may be just perfect to present your gift. Promise rings represent, in a way, the childish and young aspects of your relationship. So embrace them!
- DON’T present a promise ring if you’re aware that your significant other is already hoping for an engagement ring unless you are presenting the ring as a promise to give them an engagement ring soon - as in within the next year. If your partner is already hoping for an engagement, presenting them with a promise ring may upset them and give them the notion that you don’t want to get married, and if that’s the case it’s best not to even broach the subject. At
There are so many different options to choose from when you’re considering a promise ring, and they are truly such special gifts. Depending on your budget, there are an array of options of stones, engravings, and more to perfectly personalize your ring to give it that special meaning for you and partner.
Make sure you know their ring size and their style so that you can choose the best ring and, hopefully, not have to take it back to be resized.
If you’re ready for this promise, make the promise!